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Authenticity! How can I be more real?

It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are REAL, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are REAL you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.” (The Velveteen Rabbit, Margery Williams)

By Alberte Villeneuve-Sinclair
True North Perspective

Alberte Villeneuve-Sinclair is the author of The Neglected Garden and two French novels. Visit her website to learn more

Photo: Alberte Villeneuve-Sinclair

Photo of flowers, provided by the author7 June 2013 — Bombarded by political scandals, news of unscrupulous politicians, political unrest in troubled countries, natural disasters… You have to wonder! Soon after learning that one of my best friends has been diagnosed with liver cancer, I heard this particular cancer is on the rise. What’s happening? Are we slowly poisoning our environment and ourselves? During my last speaking engagement, I met a courageous woman who is now fighting her third cancer. A proud survivor, she showed me her testimonial in the newly published anthology “Défier le cancer pour vivre SA vie” of the “Collection Inspiration”.
By the end of that evening, my mind was filled with questions and, as usual, I sought inspiration. It came in the form of the Hay House Summit, an internet presentation which ran from June 1st to the 10th. I first listened to Wayne Dyer and Louise Hay. But this time, it was Denise Linn who impressed me.
Denise talked about the authentic soul, about finding meaning in our lives. Who am I? How can I be more real? How can I be more myself? The root of existentialism… Man is free and responsible to himself alone, and reality consists in living. I listened intently and later mulled over what she said.
Although Denise Linn came from a very poor background where there sometimes wasn’t enough food for the family, she believed in abundance and slowly made her way through high school and college, eventually becoming an author and motivational speaker.
Here are some of her favoured steps to help us become an authentic soul:
1. Have a clear vision of the past as it impacts the present. Take a good look at your family’s beliefs, both negative and positive. Negative beliefs can have a debilitating impact. My mom would say: “When you’re only born for a small loaf of bread, what can you expect?” Even as a child, I reacted to this with disbelief. I saw life as full of promises.
2. Create an affirmation that will cancel the negative beliefs, for example, “I am an abundant person”. Walk as if you are in abundance. Remember, people who are lucky, expect to be lucky; people who are successful, expect to be successful.
3. Learn to receive and give back. You need to be as good at receiving as giving. Celebrate success: yours and others’.
4. Unhook old or negative patterns and get back to the Source. Know that you are already wealthy. We are so fortunate compared to most of the world population and gratitude is most important! Shifting to a higher frequency, back to the Source, enables you to attract higher frequency people and situations.
5. Declutter! Clutter clogs up your life. Ask yourself: Do I love this? Do I need it? If the answer is no, clear the space and replace it by something that means abundance to you. And remember, plants can be your “Abundance reminder”! Create a wealth bowl. Mine contains shells, coral pieces and pebbles from Barbados, pretty marbles and blue flowers. Create a collage, a vision board or place a special object in your purse or wallet to remind you of abundance in your life. And, give it time!
6. Meditate. The Universe is wondrous! There are always guides and angels that are ready to help us. As Wayne Dyer says, “All you need will appear when you’re vigilant. Let go of old ways of thinking and access awareness.”
Wishing you authenticity! So be it...